Sunday, July 13, 2008

Two-Hundred-Seven

Brothels and the Meaning of Life
by Bruno Phillips

Some great libertine and savant once observed, ‘Only in a brothel do men and women discover the true nature of human relations.’ However one chooses to deconstruct such philosophical squibs, nothing hasty should be concluded without knowledge of the Dumas Brothel in Butte, Montana.

The brothel of course has had a long, romantic and (albeit sneakingly) admired place in populist social history since Pompeii got buried. More recently, whilst London had its bawdyhouses and Paris its bordellos, America had its democratic equivalents that ‘came West’ along with the men who drove cattle and railroads and settlements into the heartlands of the prairie and mountain.

What makes the American experience different is that where we Europeans corralled, made urban and attempted to disguise these havens of release, in the great energy of that young nation they were public agents of growth and opportunity. Men and women of humble origin sought escape from straightened circumstances, sought liberation, to achieve wealth, or at least a comfortable life. Men through their muscle, women most often through the skills regarded as peculiarly theirs. This might involve marriage, sewing and child-rearing. In the short term it mostly meant the willingness to fuck.

These natural desires could of course be satisfied, as it were, informally. But humans are creatures of context. Calloused cowboy you might be, but memories of the old homestead and plumpy cushions and little sister made you yearn for some homely comforts.

The Dumas Brothel is a classic of its kind. It was built around 1890 as a purpose-designed three-floor house for prostitutes. It still survives (just), and is probably the only example of its sort left in America. Herein the hairy, horny and hopeful miners of Butte could emerge from the depths and the dust to find a soft embrace, a seductive smile and a place for the one muscle that had not been much called for underground.

It was part of a locale called ‘Venus Alley’ and played a significant role in the maintenance of social order among the mining community. So much so, that when in the early 1940s the Federal Government tried to ban brothels as detrimental to the war effort, the region’s copper and mineral company combined with the local authorities to finagle regulations on the grounds that the miners would leave if denied some rumpy pumpy. The Dumas House survived until 1982. Rumour has it that there was a tunnel from the neighbouring and grand Finlen Hotel to the brothel and that JFK himself used it.

Be that as it may, current owner, conservator and writer Rudy Giecek is an honourable celebrant of a proud tradition. Although he doesn’t run a brothel, he shares with Cynthia Payne an amiable sympathy with human sexual needs and women’s economic pragmatism.

Quite evidently, these old brothels were not paradise. (So where is?) Sex is a transaction of many sorts. It may be conducted with love, affection, as an instrument of power and submission, or a combination of all these. In Butte the Dumas Brothel had a social and economic purpose. This was not without pleasure or reward. Girls could earn real money and escape. Men could find love. That there was also violence and degradation did not single it out as different from other socially sanctioned relations.

In the quixotic and contradictory society that is America today, and in particular in the Midwest, the brothel, the whore and the rumbunctious miner, cowboy and outlaw got together in all that dust and heat and downpour and had a fuck of a time.

Thanks to Rudy Giececk author of Venus Alley.
See also thedumasbrothel.com

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Sincerely.
Eve and JW3 and Mélisande
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Two-Hundred-Six

Erotic Haiku
by Colin B Liddell

his three minute penis her two hour vagina - Gertrude Morris

Say ‘erotic poetry’ and most of us instantly think of a dirty limerick or two. For a few of the better educated, some lines of a saucy Shakespearian sonnet may pop into our memory. But, essentially, poetry is an art form little represented in eroticism, which has traditionally been better served by the more explicit forms of culture i the steamy novel or anything visual. This is a pity because erotic poetry, used in the right way, can be a lot more potent than you might imagine.

The best eroticism subtly melds the external and the internal, bringing together our own experiences with new stimuli. The more explicit the eroticism, the more passive and unreal the experience often is. To work at its peak, eroticism has to find some way of writing us into the story, something that may be difficult with a video of a bronzed beefcake and a pneumatic blonde going at it hammer and tongs, unless (a) we happen to be one of the former, and (b) are happy to associate ourselves with the roles presented.

Often the best eroticism is that which does the least to achieve the most i the feather instead of the whole chicken, as one wit described it. What this calls for is something that makes use of the visuals, memories, and fantasies already in our own heads, something that sets our imaginations in motion.

A major source of the power of poetry is its ability to evoke. This is where the haiku, a short Japanese form of poetry, comes into its own. Rejecting the long windedness of other poetic forms, it focuses on the telling detail, and, in a sense, tries to paint a vivid picture with a single brushstroke. By being so short, it forces the poet to get to the point.

Interestingly, it is a form of poetry that has been utilized for erotic expression much more by foreigners than the Japaneseiwho feel too much reverence for the formias revealed in Erotic Haiku, a collection of poems edited by Hiroaki Sato, a Japanese writer living in New York.

‘Haiku in English are free, with few constraints,’ he explains. ‘In Japan, even though “free-rhythm” haiku were written as early as in Basho’s days (Matsuo Basho, the seventeenth-century father of the classical haiku), the overwhelming sense is that haiku is a one-line 5-7-5-syllable form with a seasonal indicator.’

Unconstrained by respect for what is after all an alien tradition, English writers have turned haiku’s power of capturing a sudden mood or feeling to good effect, creating keys to unlock our erotic imaginations:

pushing
inside until
her teeth shine - Michael McClintock

without clothes
it’s a different
conversation - John Brandi

Like most erotic haiku, these examples are deceptively simple. But this simplicity, this economy is a source of strength, as we are invited to reactivate our own sexual memories and imaginations. Perhaps McClintock’s poem helps us to half recall an instance when ‘it’ wouldn’t quite fit at first, but, when it did, her face lit up in a smile of pleasure. Brandi’s poem captures the tension of dates, when we strive to say the correct thing, but, having achieved our goal, talk and behave more freely.

Skillfully selected details, insignificant in themselves, become seeds which sprout into full-blown visions:

she leaves i
a curled hair
in my soap - David Walker

a tattooed butterfly
shivering
on her buttocks - Dejan Bogojevic

While some haiku like these make you concentrate on visual images, seeing first the detail and then the woman, others make you think. A good example is a haiku by the Illinois poet Lee Gurga. At first glance the image presented seems baffling as well as vaguely unpleasant:

old lovers
only her left nipple
becomes erect

Then you realize why he specifies the left nipple: it is the one over the heart, signifying that although eroticism has declined, in this case, at least, it has left love behind.

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Sincerely.
Eve and JW3 and Mélisande
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Tuesday, July 01, 2008

Two-Hundred

Could sex save your life?
Making love doesn’t just help you feel good. It also burns calories, boosts your immune system – and can even reduce the risk of cancer By Dan Roberts, The Independent (July 2008)

Boosting self-esteem was one of the 237 reasons people have sex, according to a study conducted last year by researchers from the University of Texas and published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. This is no surprise to Julia Cole, author of How to Have Great Sex for the Rest of Your Life. She is convinced that a healthy sex life with a loving partner does wonders for the way you feel about yourself. “After a bout of sex the body releases endorphins, which are known as ‘happy chemicals’ because they improve mood,” she says. “Purely from a physical point of view it’s similar to enjoying a good workout or going swimming – but if you’re having sex with someone you love it also makes you feel cared for and promotes self-esteem.”

The proviso, of course, is that if your sexual experiences are unhappy ones, they will have a similarly negative impact upon your psyche. But assuming the sex is good, it is thought to improve body image, as well as reducing anxiety and the incidence of psychiatric illness, depression and suicide. A 2004 study of men from four different cultures found that sexual satisfaction was directly associated with an increased frequency in sexual intercourse, as well as being inversely related to depression.

During orgasm the body produces oxytocin, which is a hormone linked to a range of positive physical and psychological effects. Chief among these is its beneficial impact on sleep. “There’s no doubt that sex is relaxing and so helps tackle insomnia,” says Dr David Delvin, a GP and specialist in sexual medicine. “Lots of people use sex, whether with a partner or on their own, as a way of getting to sleep. That’s down to the surge in oxytocin during arousal and orgasm, which is a natural sedative.”

This view is backed up by a US study carried out in 2000, which found that 32 per cent of the 1,866 female respondents who reported masturbating in the previous three months did so to help them sleep.

One of sex’s main health benefits is its positive impact on how we deal with stress. In a study published in the journal Biological Psychology, 24 women and 22 men kept records of their sexual activity. The researchers subjected them to stressful situations, such as public speaking and doing verbal arithmetic. Those who had intercourse had better responses to stressful scenarios than those who had either engaged in other sexual behaviours or abstained altogether.

According to Julia Cole, this could be down to the soothing effect another person’s touch has. She says: “A great deal of research has shown that touch has a naturally calming effect on human beings, whether it’s linked to sex or not. Of course, being touched by someone you care about will double the calming effect.”

Apart from the obviously pleasurable sensation of being touched or stroked, it is thought to have a biochemical effect, reducing the levels of cortisol – the hormone that is secreted when you’re under stress.

Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, or IgA, which can protect you from colds and other sorts of infections. Scientists at Wilkes University in the US tested IgA levels in 112 college students who reported the frequency of their sexual activity. Those students in the “frequent” group had higher levels of IgA than those who were either abstinent or had sex less than once a week.

Paula Hall, a psychosexual therapist with Relate, also thinks that the impact of sex on our general wellbeing helps to boost immunity. “All the psychological benefits have an impact on your physical health, such as your immune system,” she says. “We know that when you’re feeling good about yourself your body fights off illness and disease better – so the healthier we are psychologically and emotionally, the healthier we are physically.”

Frequent ejaculations may reduce the risk of prostate cancer for men in later life, according to a study by Australian researchers reported in the British Journal of Urology International. When they followed men diagnosed with prostate cancer and those without it, the researchers found that men who had at least five or more ejaculations weekly during their twenties reduced their risk of getting prostate cancer by a third.

“The evidence is good that men who masturbated regularly in the past are less likely to get prostate cancer,” confirms Dr Delvin. “Nobody knows exactly why this is, but it does seem to be pretty cast-iron.”

Research also suggests that regular sexual activity could help women to avoid breast cancer. A study conducted in 1989 examined 146 French women and found a higher risk of breast cancer in those women without sexual partner or who had sex less than once a month.

Having sex and orgasms is a key part of improving intimacy and ensuring a healthy long-term relationship – which has been linked to a longer lifespan in a number of studies. It’s all down to oxytocin again. “Oxytocin, also called the ‘bonding hormone’, is released when women give birth, so it is part of the bonding process with their baby,” says Julia Cole. “It’s also released in people who are in secure or long-term relationships, as well as during sexual contact. This bonding effect is one of the reasons people continue to have a sexual relationship long after they have ceased to be fertile.”

This was backed up by a study conducted by researchers from the University of Pittsburgh. They evaluated 59 premenopausal women before and after warm contact with their partners ended with hugs. The study found that the more contact the women had, the higher their oxytocin levels were.

And studies in which couples were asked to go without sex for long periods found that their general relationship declined, indicating that sex has a powerful bonding effect for couples. “There’s also the slightly more indefinable feeling that you are thought to be attractive and someone your partner wants to be with and touch,” adds Cole. “That’s very important – often when I see couples who are in trouble they have stopped having sex, and one of them will say their partner no longer thinks of them as attractive.”

Sex has been linked with a pain reduction for a wide range of conditions, including lower back pain, migraines, arthritis and premenstrual syndrome symptoms. It’s all down to those hormones again. “Sex increases endorphins, the body’s natural painkillers,” confirms Dr Delvin. “So there is evidence that having sex eases period pain and PMS.”

Oxytocin is also linked with pain relief. In a study published in the Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine, 48 volunteers who inhaled oxytocin vapour and then had their fingers pricked reduced their sensitivity to pain by half.

In 2001, two studies of orgasms and migraine headaches in a woman and man found that orgasm resulted in pain relief. And an earlier study of 83 women who suffered from migraines reported that orgasm resulted in pain relief for more than half of the group. Although this form of pain relief is less reliable and effective than the use of drug therapies, the effects of orgasm as an analgesic are more rapid.

Sexual activity, like other forms of exercise, burns both calories and fat. Thirty minutes of energetic sex burns 85 calories or more. Although this may not sound like much, it does add up – 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, which is enough to lose a pound. “Sex does burn calories, so it’s comparable to moderate exercise like doing the housework or going swimming,” says Dr Delvin. And it is, clearly, a great deal more fun.

But there is something of a chicken-and-egg element here, because people who lead more active sex lives tend to exercise more regularly and physical exercise improves sexual health. A 1990 study that followed 78 men over a nine-month period found that with consistent aerobic exercise, participants had an increase in frequency of sexual activity, improvement in performance and an increased ability to reach a “satisfying” orgasm.

One of the most extensive studies into the relationship between sex and mortality was carried out in Caerphilly, South Wales, from 1979 to 1983, with a 10-year follow-up. In the study, 918 men were given a physical examination and asked about their frequency of orgasm. After 10 years it was found that the mortality risk was 50 per cent lower among men who had frequent orgasms – which was defined as two or more per week. The study also found that, even when adjusting for age and other risk factors, frequent intercourse was associated with lower incidence of cardiovascular disease and stroke.

“There has been a great deal of research into whether people in relationships live longer,” adds Paula Hall. “We know that having a strong relationship is a good indicator of longevity – and a healthy sex life is a big part of that.”

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Sincerely.
Eve and JW3 and Mélisande
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